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As children we are taught in schools, churches and by our parents, how to enter into relationships We learned how to meet people and to play by the rules of dating and partnering as seen exclusively by the heterosexual population As gay and lesbian people we learn about heterosexism, the belief that heterosexuality is superior to homosexuality, and we learn to integrate that belief even if subconsciously into our lives With those beliefs accepted, we as adults continue to mimic heterosexual systems and attempt to mold ourselves into the straight norms and therefore we have bowed to Matchcom, Chemistrycom and the like As children we are not taught how to seek out and enter into gay relationships Many of us learned about gay people through unsavory rumors, hearsay and often from tasteless jokes from our friends and piers We learned to meet others by sneaking around in unsafe and unhealthy places Parks, public restrooms, bars and dark streets have long been knowsn as meeting places and pickup sites for gay people, especially gay men For decades gay and lesbian people have had limited options for meeting people and therefore, we\'ve learned to create relationships and find intimacy through often non-traditional means Many people believe that with the internet boom of the 90\'s, that gays led the charge in the development of online meetings, pickups, hookup sites and even the advent of online pornography American online, Prodigy (yes I remember Prodigy), and others owe much of their early revenue sources and development capitol to gay people who used their services to avoid the usual \"non-traditional\" avenues These models became so successful that we have dropped the ball on building even better resources and options We have as LGBT people defined our own paths by which we date and build relationships With the lack of discussion and the climate of inclusion in our upbringing, we have made the best of a bad situation and we\'ve created our own solutions and we have written our own rules This is why these \"other\" dating and relationship building sites, simply don\'t make the cut

Alphey provides the LGBT population with an option for developing real and substantial relationships through honest analysis and compatibility matching Science, psychology and technology are utilized to achieve these With the unfortunate lack of reasonable options for gay and lesbian singles Through deliberate direction, management and operation, Alpheycom is becoming the leader and role model for bringing Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans-gender individuals together and thereby adding to the strength and social structure of the gay and lesbian community

Relationship and introduction sites are often confused with hook-up sites relationships Women For Women We use science and psychological elements to provide members with enough information and sufficient background to introduce them to other members with whom they should find enough in common to build or at least begin to build a foundation These tools are oriented towards LGBT psychology and environments Our members only have access to members they are matched to The introduction page that a matched member is presented with includes a personality profile a comparison to the matches profile and the members summary, it goes beyond sexual propensities Hook up sites simply provide access to large database with ads from members looking for quick sexual hook ups

LGBT people have many layers and we have distinct ways that we define ourselves and our gender Gay men range from ultra masculine to the majority who are pretty mainstream to very feminine These issues are not addressed in the mainstream shared sites The same can be said for gay women Gender identity issues are not mentioned or addressed on Matchcom There are different levels of physical attractions that are influenced by factors that Chemistrycom would never talk about There are issues that some people in the LGBT community would find important that these \"mainstream\" sites don\'t consider HIV/Aids status is an important issue with many gay people Alphey provides these options if they are wanted Not all gay men would be inclined to date a transvestite, but some would Not all gay women would want to date any type of women We address dating and matching issues for trans-gender people as well Mainstream sites wouldn\'t even begin to consider addressing these issues relationships Women For Women But they are happy take money from LGBT people and they offer very little in the way of real service

Now more than ever, marriage equality and LGBT relationships are in the public debate Those who oppose us, those who would deny us equality look at some of our \' queer\' behavior and they judge us To some people, the way we present ourselves to the public is considered as unacceptable behavior The reality is, we in the LGBT community have identified and created our own place or niche We have defined ourselves despite the criticism that we face Some of these criticisms have served to strengthen us and by these we have defined ourselves But, how are we at building strong and meaningful relationships? We aren\'t taught in our homes Who are our role models who are our teachers?? The Bars, the Chat lines and Gaycom

Alpheycom is about men and women who identify as LGBTQ We are about building relationships and strengthening our community We are for building our families as we choose to define them Here in in Salt Lake City we have our own unique flavor of intolerance and religious persecution Some feel that we are on the front lines of battle for marriage equality so, what better place to bring Alphey to the population relationships Women For Women

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